Saturday, June 8, 2019

trust....

               We hear the word TRUST being tossed around quite bit, "trust your body", "trusting relationships", "trust your training". Trust is the more imperative aspect of all good or successfully-working relationships, nothing develops further if this one aspect is not present. I have a few tips that have kept me safe from people and situations I should not trust. I am not saying do not invite them to your wedding, I simply mean do not set all your marbles in their jar. 

1. My number one rule in choosing who to trust has always been to never trust someone who constantly needs attention. Most of us like a little attention, some of us want none, these people are  rabid. They are like hungry ghosts, never satisfied, constantly edging, always pushing for more sunlight, and have no moral compass when it comes to betrayal. Working along someone like this, for instance,  can be dangerous for they will sell your secrets, your comfort, your very soul to get a little attention. Being in a relationship with such a person can be draining and even dangerous to your health. Sadly, most of the time these people are unaware of their own destructive power, and justify their actions as well-meaning and even good. Stay far away. 

2. My number two rule in choosing who to trust is never trust a person who is always overtly, and unabashedly unhappy. Openly unhappy people have a life perspective issue and other people are always at fault for their behavior. Most of us have good days and bad days and even when we have bad days we tuck that shit in and keep walking. But not these guys...they create a whirlwind of drama everywhere they go, stay clear. 

3. MOST importantly, trust your gut. My gut has been my bestest friend ever (BFF), as I get older I love it and believe in it more and more. It's always been there nudging me, making me aware of its little tugs, but I always tossed aside these nudges for hardcore visible reasoning. Turns out our gut is our secret superpower. When you meet that person and something seems off.....when someone says a comment that seems off and placed there to cause an affect, we are always right. A book I currently reading, Seven Thousand Ways to Listen by Mark Nepo talks a lot about how we don't just listen with our ears, but we also listen with our whole body. So do that, listen with your whole body and you will know right away if someone feels off. Our gut also helps in training. Knowing when to keep going versus quitting, knowing when your body needs to quit a run before you hurt yourself as opposed to just some aches that will go away if you slow down. Listening to your body and trusting your own inner revelations about your body will keep you safe from physical injury. 

Monday, May 27, 2019

Getting older....

          Everything about getting older mirrors getting home after a long day of work and just wanting to let loose and relax. You just want to put on your comfy pjs and sit in you comfy chair and take a deep, cleaning breath. For example, in friendships, I instinctually keep away from anyone who requires me to "swim uphill" for affection or approval, or makes me feel wrong or broken. Who has energy for that kind of soap drama in their lives? not me. Even in my marriage, sweetness and kindness take priority in every interaction. At work, I have stopped prioritizing pleasing others and learned to say "no" when asked to do last minute tasks that often does not even have anything to do with job. In choosing what to wear even, this parallel is manifested. I choose clothes that make me feel comfortable and confident. And finally, in my running. Long have passed the days when I would wear anything to impress anyone. I have a drawer full of clothing I bought to impress, and guess what I wear to work out? I wear the same top and the same bottom to every workout. I even wear mismatched socks for as long as they are the brand I love they feel fine, who cares that they do not match! 

        I turn 46 this summer and I am stronger and happier than I have ever been. Lots of dreams are being built and tended to these next few months. 

Saturday, May 11, 2019

Off season...

            The off season is a time get creative and plan fun new activities for your body, but not quite feeling it lately. I am finding myself pulling away from all the noise of Facebook, of movies, of parties, and anything that feels like a constant buzz. I prefer sitting in my outdoor porch and listening to the birds and the water and waking up before dawn to run my neighborhood in the dark. 
I just feel overwhelmed and appreciative to have so much....so much bad has happened lately at work and in the country that one has to stop and really assess what is really important. I am ready for summer...I am ready for some beach time, some time gardening for hours and just lazying about. 

Saturday, April 6, 2019

New Dreams on top of new dreams

              Yes! Hooray for new dreams. I have signed up for the Baltimore Marathon (marathon #12) and I am gathering friends who'd like to come on an epic adventure with me in 2020 at the Three Days at the Fair races in NJ. I want to do the 24 or the 48 hour challenge. So far about 4 awesome running friends have said they're interested. Also exciting is that in a little over a year I will qualify for 50 States Marathon Club (to run 10 marathon distances in 10 different states) and I will also have a second go at the illusive 100K distance. 
              In the meantime, I am chewing on MUCH smaller goals. But don't get my wrong, these smaller goals are JUST as important as the mother load...in fact, the main goal would never come to fruition if it weren't for the everyday grunt chore-type goals getting obliterated daily..... in the everyday struggles with these minor goals is where these races are made.... 

Smaller goals for the week:
* Preplan a healthy lunch and breakfast to take into work all week!
* Take a water bottle and refill as needed throughout the day
* Zero sugar- just say no damn thank you!
* No bread -use alternates- zero tolerance girl!!
* Find one more race for summer 2020 (State #10)
* Zero wine before bed for this week- HHs only
* 2-3 miles running daily with extended stretch after- try to get it done in the mornings....